Cheating Bastards

I have always wondered, what makes a man cheat on his wife? What makes a man leave his wife and children at home, sneak around in the middle of the night and sleep with other women? A male colleague of mine once said that men can’t be monogamous, that it is not in their nature. Is is really true? Is it in their scientific make up to be cheating bastards? Another issue that arises is whether a relationship can be saved after infidelity. Hey, I’m not saying that women do not cheat––far from it––but we are investigating the male species today.

Some men argue that genetically they are supposed to cheat, that it is in their nature to stray because they are responsible for spreading the sperm to continue the human race, blah, blah, blah. Even though that is a valid point, we do live in a civilized society now and as human beings we all have something called choice. In addition, no man is going around trying to spread his sperm and have some kids when he is out cheating. He always has the choice to stay faithful. Another widely accepted reason for cheating is that the relationship has run its course; the man is no longer in love with the woman but wants out. Instead of being brave and telling her so, he cheats instead.

We all like different flavors of ice cream. My favorite is truffle but I like having something different once in a while. So some men in long-term relationships just get tired of the same thing day in and day out. They get fed up of being with and having sex with the same person. They want variety so they go find other flavors somewhere else. That is why you must keep your relationship interesting and exciting in and out of the bedroom!

Men also cheat to get revenge. The woman has an affair, so to pay her back, he has one too. We all like the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. Many men admit to the fact that the most exciting part of a relationship is the beginning when he has to work to get the girl. After the prey has been caught, things can get a little boring, so to get that thrill all the time, men go after other women. My advice, let your girlfriend put on a wig, pretend to be someone else and flirt with her at a bar. Pick her up, take her home . . . You get my drift. This keeps everyone excited and entertained.

Men also like their ego stroked and they love to be admired. When a relationship is in the comfortable stage, women may not laugh at his jokes like they use to. So he goes out just to see if he still got it. He cheats to see if he is still the man. He finds a new woman who tells him he is their God and he’s happy for a while.

Another simple reason for cheating is the opportunity. A hot woman at a bar or the office hottie flirts with you, invites you over and you are off and running. Wow, is there no hope of finding a faithful man. I am really starting to wonder. Even though I have listed many many reasons why men cheat, this does not excuse the behavior. We all have the power of choice and if you want out of your relationship then just get out. If you are bored with your woman or man then do something to spice up the relationship. Go get that wig . . . you get my drift.

(The photo above was taken during a shoot for the third season of my tv show Access Caribbean)