The First Move

So I know that it is 2007 and all that and we women should be able to do everything that men do. When it comes to love and dating, should we act just like men and do everything that they do? Is it ok to ask a guy out or make the first move? Men have been dealing with rejection for centuries, is it our turn now? I wonder if men would prefer for us women to approach them? I am all for women power and all that but I really do not want the tables turned. I may ask a guy out once in a while, oh okay once in a blue moon but I would rather not do it all the time.

A friend of mine really liked this guy. He was a cool dude but he was extremely shy. This guy told a mutual friend that he was really interested in my friend but he could not make the first move. He would just talk to her a little but could not muster up the courage to ask her out. Armed with this important piece of information, she invited him to dinner and they have been together ever since. The story could have ended differently if she waited for him to make the first move. At least she was lucky and knew that he liked her. Some of us are not so lucky.

I am sure that we have all been in this situation. We like some guy and we think that he has some interest but we are not absolutely sure. So we keep on staring at him across the bar and he stares back. So what do you do in this situation? There are many benefits of living in a small island, one being the fact that everybody knows everybody. So you use your links and friends to gain intel.

There must be someone you know that knows him so let that person casually mention your name and find out what the guy thinks about you. Please make sure that the guy is not told that you are interested in him. The undercover agent you send in must say the following, ‘So man, you’re still single right? Well hey, what about (insert your name here)? She’s a great girl and I know that she is single too and she is here tonight. I could casually bring you over there to her.’ This is a no fail method of finding out what the guy thinks. Just make sure that the person you send in to do your dirty work can do it right.

This method has been tried and tested by yours truly so I know that it works! So after finding out that he is interested in you, then you can make the first move and invite him out for drinks or something. Now by all means, if you are one of the brave ones, just go for it and let him know that you are interested and see what happens. You may have to deal with a little rejection and it will be embarrassing at first but it is always worth the risk. This is what life is all about. Men have to deal with rejection all of the time, so maybe now we can take some of the burden off of them.

Another simple way is to just go up to a guy and say hello. Let’s avoid all of the bad pick up lines that men have been using for ages and just be straight. ‘Hello my name is (insert your name here), what’s yours?’ Simple and to the point.