Do You Have GST?

On recent Sunday, while flipping through the channels, I came across an extremely interesting reality show on Lifetime. The show was called Gay, Straight or Taken, and single women were tested to see if they had GST. Let me explain. One single girl had to spend some time with three guys. One guy is gay, the second is straight and single and the third is taken or unavailable. The girl has to figure out which guy is the straight single one and if she guesses correctly the two of them go on a romantic vacation together.

I was thoroughly engrossed in this show and tried guessing who was Gay, Straight or Taken. As a single gal, I have to do this very same thing when dealing with guys. In the dating world, how can you tell the difference? Are there signs or signals to indicate a guy's status if he does not volunteer the true information? With a limited number of straight, single guys out there, girls must arm themselves with a huge dose of GST in order to weed out the not so good options.

In the past the stereotype of gay guys was very clear. Most people assumed that if a guy was very much into clothes, grooming and acted in a feminine manner, that he was gay. Now, with the rise of the metrosexual (a straight guy who spends a great deal of time and money on his appearance and has a great sense of style), it is much harder to judge a guy's sexual orientation just by his attention to his appearance. After spending some time in Miami and having a few gay friends, I surely know that not all gay guys are neat freaks or have great style. So that throws this theory right out the window! And now with some brothers on the down-low (guys who have sex with other guys on a regular basis but who do not identify themselves as being gay or bi-sexual), it is even harder to separate the bananas from the oranges.

Now, I hope that no one is misconstruing my remarks. I have nothing against gay guys and I have had the privilege of having a few gay friends, but as a single gal I need to be able to quickly and efficiently identify who is single, straight and available.

Now on to the men who are taken, unavailable, have a girlfriend, a wife, baby's mama or are in a committed relationship. Some of these men, when 'chatting up' women, conveniently forget to mention that all important fact. Even when these guys are singing a different tune, is there anyway to tell if they are 'off the market'. The truth is that you really can't tell, especially with guys who have developed the art of lying about it. My advice to you, especially if you live in St. Lucia or any other small community, is to ask your cousin's mother's sister's friend's co-worker, cause somebody somewhere must know something about him!

So there really is no definite way of telling if a guy is gay, straight or taken if there are no obvious signs. So what's a gal to do then? Hopefully your cousin's mother's sister's friend's co-worker will have some information about the guy for you!