The Love Triangle

There is an old saying that advises a woman to choose the man who is in love with her instead of the man who she is in love with. What's a girl to do if she is madly in love with guy number one but he is does not feel exactly the same about her. Then there is guy number two who is madly in love with the girl but she does not feel exactly the same about him. Does she choose option one, option two or say adios to both?

I know what my answer would be, but let's put that aside for now while we investigate all the options. If you had to choose between two guys/girls to spend the rest of your life with, would you choose someone that was absolutely devoted to you who you didn't think is your soul mate. Or would you go for another person who you are totally devoted to but who does not have similar strong feelings for you?? Decisions, decisions…

An acquaintance of mine once told me about a similar dilemma that she was in. She was in a relationship with this guy for one and a half years and she was really in love with him. The guy on the other hand treated her like crap, cheated on her constantly and clearly did not love her. Soon another guy comes along and shows plenty of interest in her and he soon declares that he is in love with her and wants to treat her like a queen. Even though she is not in love with this new guy, she promptly leaves her boyfriend and begins to date. She admitted that she was just as miserable in this relationship as she was in the old because she didn't have any strong feelings for her new boyfriend. The relationship lasted for three months until she broke up with him.

Well if I had to choose between the two, was forced to choose, told to choose or else…; I would do the smart thing and choose the guy who is devoted to and totally in love with me! Isn't that the better and smarter route to take? I think that life would be sort of easier knowing that the person you are with truly loves you. Then, I guess it would be a bad thing for the guy; having a girl who does not feel the same way about him. Another thing that may happen is that the girl may just wake up one day, get tired of being with someone who she is not in love with and may just walk out.

The second route is just as problematic. You start having a wonderful relationship with the guy that you are totally in love with and then one day out of the blue, he ups and leaves because he gets tired of being with someone who he is not in love with.

In both instances, only one person is happy in the relationship, and as a result many problems and issues will arise. For a relationship to work, really work, both people involved should want to be with the other. The best option is to say adios to both and find someone who loves you just as much as you love them!

Many times, in relationships, people settle for less than they want. Even though they feel unsure about being with their partner or they are remaining in the relationship for the wrong reasons, they do not end things. A guy once told me that he no longer loved his girlfriend but did not want to break up with her because he felt obligated to say in the relationship. They had been together for four years and he had simply fallen out of love with her. In the end, she broke up with him because she caught him cheating! If only he had been honest and ended the relationship earlier, some of the drama could have been avoided. Anyhoo, until next time…