How Picky Is Too Picky?
My dear, dear readers, this gal has had an epiphany. I have now realized that in dating, everything and I repeat everything is relative and subjective. Let me start from the beginning. Some time ago I was dating this absolutely wonderful guy, he was perfect for me or so I thought. Then one day out of the blue, he informed me that we could no longer date because he did not approve of me wearing short skirts or the one glass of red wine that I had with my steak for dinner. WHAT?? Yes it is true, some guy did not want to date the wonderful me because of that.
So of course I was furious. I thought that this guy had no right to judge me. So what if I showed off my legs a few times and what good is a medium rare steak without a good glass of red wine. I just could not understand where he was coming from. Was he that picky about the girls he dated? He obviously liked me so should that prevent him from dating me?
Ok, so after the anger and disbelief subsided, I really began to think about the situation. Was this guy wrong in being that picky? And how picky is too picky? I mean, we all have our list of things that we want in a dating partner. I always try to go outside the box and date guys who are not my type but it rarely works out. So maybe this guy had his list (which includes a girl who only wear skirts below the knee and certainly one that drinks zero alcohol, Shandy included!) So was he wrong for following his must have list? I took a look at myself and my list for what I want in a guy and realized that some people may think that I am being too picky.
For example, I would prefer to date someone who does not smoke. I just prefer that and would rather not be exposed to second hand smoke. I also prefer not to date guys who are way too much into the hip hop style of dress. (Oh boy, I will get in trouble for this one!). I absolutely detest these oversized basketball jerseys, the pants that reach just above the calf and the too big jeans that fall off the bum. I really prefer a guy who has a Euro style of dressing, with fitted clothes. When I tell some St. Lucian guys that, they think that I am crazy and admit that they would never actually buy clothes that fit them only those two sizes bigger. Oye!
So am I now being too picky? I am not saying that I would stop dating someone for the above mentioned things but I have to admit that I might not start dating them in the first place. So was the guy who didn’t approve of my short skirts or wine drinking wrong? Was he being way too picky? Some part of me still says yes and that he is ridiculous but another part says that this is just what the guy wants. If he has a list of what he looks for in a partner, who am I to tell him that he is wrong or too picky?
All power to him. I hope that he finds exactly what he is looking for. I on the other hand will look for some one who loves my short skirts, who I can enjoy a bottle of wine with and who does not wear oversized clothes! Until next week…
So of course I was furious. I thought that this guy had no right to judge me. So what if I showed off my legs a few times and what good is a medium rare steak without a good glass of red wine. I just could not understand where he was coming from. Was he that picky about the girls he dated? He obviously liked me so should that prevent him from dating me?
Ok, so after the anger and disbelief subsided, I really began to think about the situation. Was this guy wrong in being that picky? And how picky is too picky? I mean, we all have our list of things that we want in a dating partner. I always try to go outside the box and date guys who are not my type but it rarely works out. So maybe this guy had his list (which includes a girl who only wear skirts below the knee and certainly one that drinks zero alcohol, Shandy included!) So was he wrong for following his must have list? I took a look at myself and my list for what I want in a guy and realized that some people may think that I am being too picky.
For example, I would prefer to date someone who does not smoke. I just prefer that and would rather not be exposed to second hand smoke. I also prefer not to date guys who are way too much into the hip hop style of dress. (Oh boy, I will get in trouble for this one!). I absolutely detest these oversized basketball jerseys, the pants that reach just above the calf and the too big jeans that fall off the bum. I really prefer a guy who has a Euro style of dressing, with fitted clothes. When I tell some St. Lucian guys that, they think that I am crazy and admit that they would never actually buy clothes that fit them only those two sizes bigger. Oye!
So am I now being too picky? I am not saying that I would stop dating someone for the above mentioned things but I have to admit that I might not start dating them in the first place. So was the guy who didn’t approve of my short skirts or wine drinking wrong? Was he being way too picky? Some part of me still says yes and that he is ridiculous but another part says that this is just what the guy wants. If he has a list of what he looks for in a partner, who am I to tell him that he is wrong or too picky?
All power to him. I hope that he finds exactly what he is looking for. I on the other hand will look for some one who loves my short skirts, who I can enjoy a bottle of wine with and who does not wear oversized clothes! Until next week…
posted by Love Chronicles | 2:15 PM
1 Comments:
I hold common interest in your perfect guy's sense of stlye. Every individual has their preferences and I for one find it difficult to bend mine. If you're not impressed or the individual lacks the essential credentials, it's definitely not worth it. It's your sense of comfort that matters in the end. So, I therefore go with what suits me and the sagging clothing guy is just not my type. I love the perfect fit (by that I mean his size) and for me it's the Brit/Euro style for my guy! Now isn't that's more descent, hott, classy & sexy? Come on!!
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