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Esther Lee's Love Chronicles

These are my personal tales of love, life and sex. Love Chronicles is now an award winning column. It captured the Gold (1st) prize for Creative Journalism in the National Arts Awards 2006 in St. Lucia!

September 08, 2006

What Men Want

I must say that after being in the dating world for a few years, I have come to realize that the male species is even more confusing than the females, regardless of what everybody else thinks. Recently some guy didn’t like the fact that I wore short skirts and some other guys that I have dated loved me to show off my God given gambs. One study suggests that guys like dumb women, another swears that the opposite is true and that men will fall for the smart woman. I always wonder what exactly men are looking for in a woman. What do men really want?

All single girls ask themselves this question when dating. What qualities do guys find attractive in girls? Many studies suggest that there are some basic factors that men look for. First, they say that all men want is to be loved. They want a woman that will totally love them for who they are. Aww. How sweet! Men also want a woman with a sense of humor and one that exudes confidence without being full of herself. Another important factor is that men want approval from their buddies. They want a woman who will get thumbs up from their guy friends when she leaves the table. Other studies suggest that a man just wants a mommy!

Now lets start with the biggest ongoing debate. Do men want beauty or brains? A recent study for a TV news magazine show interviewed 1000 men about this topic. They concluded that 48% of men choose beauty, 36% choose brains and 16% wanted a combination of both. 16%??? What’s wrong with these men? So is this study really true and does it represent the majority of men. So if you have a dumb beautiful woman, what happens when you get so used to her looks, do you stare at each other all day? On the other hand, an intelligent woman could keep you entertained for a lifetime. If I was a man, I would definitely choose a combination of both. There is nothing better than a smart beautiful woman.

A new research study in the Journal of Evolution and Human Behaviour concluded that men want subordinate women and another study suggests that men are four times as likely to be attracted to a woman who is less educated than them. I’m seeing a scaring trend here. Is an educated woman that intimidating? According to these studies, I guess so.

So the question remains, what do men want? I am still confused as ever. If I have to go by the studies, then all men want is a dumb woman. Then I am really out of luck with my extremely high IQ. Hahahaha. Before I end dear readers, I must tell you about another very interesting study. A UK study suggests that how full a man’s stomach is can dictate the type of woman he will like. That means that when a man is hungry, he prefers a much heavier woman. Until next week…

2 Comments:

Blogger Jeanvic said...

• A woman who is honest, who he can trust completely, who is not likely to sneak around and sleep around with other guys.
• Someone with similar interests so they have something in common.
• A woman who will make an effort to please him.
• A woman who makes an effort to look her best.
• An appreciation of the man's job.
• Passion
• A woman whose ego isn't bigger than her hairstyle.
• A partner for his life.
• A partner for his soul.
• Someone who is caring. All men want to be looked after.
• Someone who has faith in him.
• A woman who is strong yet sometimes submissive.
• A woman who is strong but does not have an attitude.
• Someone who is not too loud.
• Someone who won't nag him beyond reason.
• A woman who challenges him and is full of the unexpected.
• An interesting woman.
• An intelligent woman.
• A woman who is not dumb (mediocre intelligence is fine).
• A woman who is smart enough to grasp new concepts.
• Someone artistic or creative.
• A woman can take care of herself without feeling that she has to compromise herself in a relationship.
• Someone who suits their individual personality.
• Some guys like an aggressive woman.
• Some guys like silent and reserved type.
• Someone in-shape/athletic.
• Interdependence, so that you trust and need each other.
• A sense of humor.
• A woman with a nice laugh.
• A positive personality.
• Men want a woman who is comfortable with her own sexuality.
• Someone up for action, or willing to get a litte kinky in the bedroom.
• A positive personality
• A talent and passion in something worthwhile.
• Men respect and want a woman who knows her own mind; women who are true to themselves.
• Someone relaxed and confident.
• A woman with a good soul.
• A woman who has a great smile and loves to laugh and be herself but can also be intelligent and serious.

4:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hello Esther,
i love what you are doing. it seems like you were one of those with the courage to go through with her passion. like you, i enjoy writing, no, i love it, but i don,t possess the courage to go forth with it.
I think that a mans request on a woman varies. like us, not all guys are the same and so every one of them has a different mantality.
if there is one thing that most guys has in common then it has to be the fact that all of then are expexting their friends to approve of "THE LADY". funny how they all appear to be wispering and laughing and stealing glances at you at the end of the night.
regardless of the fact the friends won't decide if "she" stays or goes, they are a part and parcel of a guys vicious smile.
all guys think of a relationship in the sequence where intimacy comes before absolute commitement. they may not say it or that may not happen but at the back of their mind, they are thinking about it.
men want someone to compliment them, someone to support them but if there is one thing that they hate, them it is a woman who makes them look like her inferior.
anyways, this is just my view point.i guess after you have know some one for a while them you some how begin to automatically know what they want and vise versa.
ain't lif a bitch sometimes?

continue doing what you are doing Esther and keep the faith. best wishes from one like your self

8:22 PM  

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