Does Single Equal Lonely?

Last night I was watching a Chris Rock Special on HBO. The comedian was as usual in all his glory talking about the all-important issue. Relationships. Rock plainly stated that there are only two options or routes when it comes to relationships. You can either be married and miserable, or single and lonely. He went on to say that when you are married, you always want to kill the other person but when you are single you always want to kill yourself. Is that really true? Does single really equal lonely?

As a single gal with a few dates scattered here and there, that thought always crosses my mind. Especially when your friends are all in couples. You go to dinner, they are in a couple, you are alone; you go to a club, they are dancing away with their special someone and you are trying to get away from some annoying guy who does not understand the meaning of ‘no I do not want to dance with you, ever!’ Let’s not even talk about special occasions like Valentine’s Day or some formal occasion where a date is as important and required as that perfect little black dress.

I must admit that it can get lonely sometimes. I repeat, only sometimes. It is of course great to be in a relationship with a cool guy but it is also great to be single as well. Sometimes. Like everything else, being single has its good and bad sides. It can be a lot of fun to be single especially in your twenties where the world is your oyster and you are free to do whatsoever you want to do. There is no guy to answer to. No explaining to do as to where you were with whom or what time you will be home.

As a single person, you can choose to do anything you want with your time especially on the weekends. If you choose to go to the club until four in the morning, wake up at 2pm the next day, then spend all day in bed eating chocolate ice cream and watching the Food Network, then so be it. It’s all up to you. The important thing to remember is that you must have a life, one that you enjoy.

And let’s not forget the all-important benefit to being single. You can date whomever you please. No jealous boyfriend to deal with. In that way you get to meet a lot of great and some not so great guys. Trust me, I know. You get to weed out the qualities that you love in guys and those that you would prefer to avoid. Oh and let me not forget girls, that if you are single, you have no worrying to do about where your man is with whom doing what until what time. Okay.

Now I am not saying that being single is any better than being in a great relationship. They both have pros and cons. I must admit that the last dates I went on were pretty incredible but I am still very much single and not at all lonely! So there! Until next week…