Attraction

I was watching Oprah recently and the topic was mucho interesting. It was all about attracting your soul mate and how you go about finding the right man or woman for you. One relationship expert concluded that we are responsible for whomever we attract. If we keep on attracting jerks it is because of what we are putting out there.

She explained that the energy that we give off is attracting guys to us that we feel worthy of having. Let me break it down some more. So say that you have dated three different guys in one year and these guys are all abusive and treat you like dirt. The explanation is that you are giving off energy or signs that say that this is how you value yourself. Until you start believing that you deserve more in your life, only then will you attract a better guy.

Is that really true? Are we responsible for the people that come into our lives? Can we control the type of person that is attracted to us? I say definitely yes! Life is truly all about energy. If you allow yourself to you can definitely feel what other people are about. I am sure you have heard someone say that so and so just has so much negative energy. It’s the same with guys. If you believe that you are worth little, have no self esteem, you will obviously attract someone who will take advantage of you and use you like his or her doormat. On the other hand if you are a confident individual and think very highly of yourself then someone worthy will be attracted to you.

Some experts believe that you are what you think and I totally agree with that. This is something that I have learnt in my short twenty six years of living. You think, therefore you are. To attract the good guys and girls, work on yourself first and make yourself someone that you love and want to be around. Just forget about finding love for now, make yourself the number one priority and then you will attract all that you want.

A girlfriend of mine was telling me about her love life recently. She seemed to be dating and attracting men who were in the country for only a few months or so. Every time she met a great guy, it turned out that he was only working here for a while and then would return to his country. After great thought she realized that she was a bit afraid of commitment and this was her was of not dealing with it. If the guy was here for a short time there was no way she would be pulled into a long term commitment and she never had the hard task of breaking things off. Right now she is working on herself and I am sure that she will soon find a great guy.

Another expert suggested that to attract someone when you are out, just believe that you are hot, confident and sexy and other people will believe it as well. So even if you are having a bad hair day, feel down or are just fed up with your love life, put on your sexiest outfit, hold your head high and strut what your momma gave you. Remember ‘You are what you think!