Dating Myths

In the dating world of a single gal there are many things you hear about but really do not believe. Your couple friends always tell you about these things but seeds of doubt have already been planted in your brain. I am even starting to believe that a good first date is an urban legend. Oh alright, I am exaggerating a bit but is there really something called ‘love at first sight’ or does each person really have a ‘soul mate’? How does a single gal separate the truth from the myths?

A guy sees a girl across a room, the girl turns to look at him, their eyes lock and they fall instantly in love with each other. Dear readers, I present dating myth number one. Love at first sight. Is there even such a thing? How can two people just look at each other and know that they are in love? I think that ‘love at first sight’ is just really ‘lust at first sight’. That instant attraction two people feel is probably all about the physical attraction. The girls look at the guy and thinks, ‘Oh what nice eyes you have’ and the guy looks at the girl and thinks ‘Oh my, what nice ________ you have’ (fill in the blanks yourself). Anyway, I once believed in love at first sight but after many incidents of asking what was I thinking, I am no longer a believer.

I am sure that the following has happen to you as well: I was at a party a few years ago and I saw this gorgeous guy a few feet away. After staring at each other, falling in love across the room, he finally came over. ‘Hi, I’m Esther,’ I said, in my most seductive voice. A soon as the first word came out of his mouth the attraction was gone. I can’t really explain it, but it was just not the voice I was expecting and he really was an airhead!

Dating myth number two is the phenomenon of soul mates. Are we to believe that on this earth with a gazillion people that there is one person out there for each of us? Only one? So do we go roaming the world in search of ‘the one’ who we are destined to spend the rest of our lives and eternity with? Oh please. I am sure that that couples who are now madly in love with each other, want to slap some sense into me, to get me to believe that there is that one guy out there for me. Sorry, but at this moment, I just don’t.

However, there are some popular phrases that I do whole-heartedly believe in. The first is ‘Love is blind’. Yes, scientists have actually proven that being in love makes people ‘blind’ or unaware of the facts. Researchers have found that certain chemicals releases in the brain when a person in ‘in love’ makes them think and act like a crazy person! They also say that similar endorphins are released when ‘in love’ and when someone takes crack! Yes that crack! That explains a lot. Anyway the second one I believe is that ‘fools rush in’. More on that later. Until next week…..