How Picky Is Too Picky?

My dear, dear readers, this gal has had an epiphany. I have now realized that in dating, everything and I repeat everything is relative and subjective. Let me start from the beginning. Some time ago I was dating this absolutely wonderful guy, he was perfect for me or so I thought. Then one day out of the blue, he informed me that we could no longer date because he did not approve of me wearing short skirts or the one glass of red wine that I had with my steak for dinner. WHAT?? Yes it is true, some guy did not want to date the wonderful me because of that.

So of course I was furious. I thought that this guy had no right to judge me. So what if I showed off my legs a few times and what good is a medium rare steak without a good glass of red wine. I just could not understand where he was coming from. Was he that picky about the girls he dated? He obviously liked me so should that prevent him from dating me?

Ok, so after the anger and disbelief subsided, I really began to think about the situation. Was this guy wrong in being that picky? And how picky is too picky? I mean, we all have our list of things that we want in a dating partner. I always try to go outside the box and date guys who are not my type but it rarely works out. So maybe this guy had his list (which includes a girl who only wear skirts below the knee and certainly one that drinks zero alcohol, Shandy included!) So was he wrong for following his must have list? I took a look at myself and my list for what I want in a guy and realized that some people may think that I am being too picky.

For example, I would prefer to date someone who does not smoke. I just prefer that and would rather not be exposed to second hand smoke. I also prefer not to date guys who are way too much into the hip hop style of dress. (Oh boy, I will get in trouble for this one!). I absolutely detest these oversized basketball jerseys, the pants that reach just above the calf and the too big jeans that fall off the bum. I really prefer a guy who has a Euro style of dressing, with fitted clothes. When I tell some St. Lucian guys that, they think that I am crazy and admit that they would never actually buy clothes that fit them only those two sizes bigger. Oye!

So am I now being too picky? I am not saying that I would stop dating someone for the above mentioned things but I have to admit that I might not start dating them in the first place. So was the guy who didn’t approve of my short skirts or wine drinking wrong? Was he being way too picky? Some part of me still says yes and that he is ridiculous but another part says that this is just what the guy wants. If he has a list of what he looks for in a partner, who am I to tell him that he is wrong or too picky?

All power to him. I hope that he finds exactly what he is looking for. I on the other hand will look for some one who loves my short skirts, who I can enjoy a bottle of wine with and who does not wear oversized clothes! Until next week…

What Men Want

I must say that after being in the dating world for a few years, I have come to realize that the male species is even more confusing than the females, regardless of what everybody else thinks. Recently some guy didn’t like the fact that I wore short skirts and some other guys that I have dated loved me to show off my God given gambs. One study suggests that guys like dumb women, another swears that the opposite is true and that men will fall for the smart woman. I always wonder what exactly men are looking for in a woman. What do men really want?

All single girls ask themselves this question when dating. What qualities do guys find attractive in girls? Many studies suggest that there are some basic factors that men look for. First, they say that all men want is to be loved. They want a woman that will totally love them for who they are. Aww. How sweet! Men also want a woman with a sense of humor and one that exudes confidence without being full of herself. Another important factor is that men want approval from their buddies. They want a woman who will get thumbs up from their guy friends when she leaves the table. Other studies suggest that a man just wants a mommy!

Now lets start with the biggest ongoing debate. Do men want beauty or brains? A recent study for a TV news magazine show interviewed 1000 men about this topic. They concluded that 48% of men choose beauty, 36% choose brains and 16% wanted a combination of both. 16%??? What’s wrong with these men? So is this study really true and does it represent the majority of men. So if you have a dumb beautiful woman, what happens when you get so used to her looks, do you stare at each other all day? On the other hand, an intelligent woman could keep you entertained for a lifetime. If I was a man, I would definitely choose a combination of both. There is nothing better than a smart beautiful woman.

A new research study in the Journal of Evolution and Human Behaviour concluded that men want subordinate women and another study suggests that men are four times as likely to be attracted to a woman who is less educated than them. I’m seeing a scaring trend here. Is an educated woman that intimidating? According to these studies, I guess so.

So the question remains, what do men want? I am still confused as ever. If I have to go by the studies, then all men want is a dumb woman. Then I am really out of luck with my extremely high IQ. Hahahaha. Before I end dear readers, I must tell you about another very interesting study. A UK study suggests that how full a man’s stomach is can dictate the type of woman he will like. That means that when a man is hungry, he prefers a much heavier woman. Until next week…